Abandoned By My Mistress
Hot Topic ~ Mistress Abandonment Issues, The toll it takes on long term submissives, and what to do about it –
By Lifestyle Mistress Alina Sky.
Misttress abandonment, or a new client coming to me with the dreaded claim that he or she has “Been Abandoned By My MIstress” is becoming a frequent issue I’ve considered addressing before, but did not have a chance yet, so let’s take a closer look at this, well, crisis.
This is a real topic of contention for me (behold my facial expression in the featured image of this blog), but this is in NO WAY written against ANY Mistress or person in anger or blame. This is basically life being life, and we ALL had that experesssion regarding one existential crisis or another, Life Is Messy.
I DO feel that, as a Lifestyle Mistress, I was going to write about this issue at some point, mostly for the sake of my new, and long term clients, because that is a fear that they have voiced to me on a regular basis. And it’s a very real concern for many of you, who have come to depend on a Mistress in your lives, to a point that having her there is at the very center of your existance, daily life, and even identity.
So, what happens when Mistress Abandonment becomes a reality to a long term, loyal submissive, and what can you do about it, so that your entire world feel like it’s collapsing, without a support system or anyone who truly understand this substantial loss?
In this post I will address the very real effects of losing your Mistress and REAL TIME solutions of how to effectively deal with that loss and move forward with all your Submission and Dominaiton Journey in a healthy and constructive ways.
Let’s dive in.
My Actual Facial Expression When I hear A Mistress Just abandoned Her Cllient????
Abandoned By My Mistress-
The Imbalance Of a Proffessional Dom/sub relationships
You’ve found the Mistress Of Your Dreams. You may or may not have a written and signed contract of exclusivity, but it’s certainly implied and understood that she is your Main Mistress if not the Only Mistress you belong to,.
You have great chemistry, and established a long term commitment that will be very detailed and span every area of your life. Some Mistress Ownerships go very deep, and if it’s a healthy constructive ownerships (WHICH ARE THE ONLY ONES I SUPPORT AND ENGAGE IN), Those D/s interactions will benefit you in all ways.
At some point in your life, you realized that You NEED to belong to a Mistress. You haven’t found anyone socially that can fully address and understand what you wish for, because for the most part, unless you are in the presence of a proffessional Dominatrix, as a submissive, you will not be fully understood. Basically it’s like ANY truly proffessional service, you don’t ask your wife or girlfriend to perform a root canal unless she is a Dental Surgoen and you can’t expect anyone who doesn’t understand Domination Fully, to meet your needs as a submissive, especially if you don’t understand those needs yourself.
Full Spectrum Domination is a highly complicated proffession, it took me YEARS of actual lifestyle sessions with a great Dominatrix Mentor to get to where I am today, endless hours, phone calls, research, talking with clients, men, women and couples, to offer what I can offer right now, it was a very long road and I STILL learn new things daily, because THIS is my life’s work and passion.
Now, let’s say after a long search you finally found the Mistress of Your dreams, and are in deep relationship, possibly an ownership contract, regular sessions, and that relationship has gone on for years and years.
Once you give yourself to an actual Mistress you found to meet all your needs, this obviously takes immense amount of trust and also means that you have given yourself FULLY to another person that, unless you are MARRIED to her and she is your Dominate Wife (I will get into that later in this post, as well) – Yet that Mistress who owns you only shows you a PART of herself, namely you are her JOB.
This is the only industry where many times logic goes right out the window. For example, let’s say you have a favorite restaurant, and even if you dine in that place every day of your life and that Chef makes your meal EVERY night and has become your best friend, you NEVER expect that Chef to leave that place of employment and invite you over to his private home so he can cook your meals for free on a regular basis. See what I mean?
No matter how that Mistress may be the center of YOUR world, for the most part you are absolutly NOT the center of HERS, and unfortunatly, MANY submissives either don’t understand this fact or choose to ignore it completely.
Hence lies the great imbalance in the proffessional worls of D/s relationship, and it’s a hard topic to broach and talk about, but I pride myself on being a truth teller and I’m not here to run a scam or to make promises I cannot keep. I care a LOT about my submissives and as a Lifestyle And Distance/Phone Dominatrix this is my ONLY line of income, as of 2022, so for me, this isn’t a part time hobby, at all.
The Loss and Grief You Feel is Valid
No really, it totally IS.
And many of my clients told me how devestated they were when a long term (sometimes decades long) their commitment and loyalty to their Mistress has spanned this many years.
So when their beloved Mistress is gone, there is this huge gap left, smack dab in the center of their very lives, and what’s worse, is that they cannot really discuss their loss with their friends or loved ones, and definitely not process this void in their lives correctly.
Lucky for you, if you are reading this, here in LDW, you have reached the BEST place to work out a replacement Mistress that can help you launch your submissive lifestyle in a continuous streamlined manner.
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She became a managing partner in an exclusive, couples and members only Vegas Erotica Club, with her Mentor, and worked there for over five years.
Upon the club closure,Ms Alina is now resideing in NYC and provides Distance Domination Sessions to LDW clients, and her in person sessions are provided ONLY to clients retained in her Vegas Club tenure, which gives Ms Alina a constant ongoing specilized understanding of all your Dominaiton and Erotica Needs.
Yes that is a real mystery to me.I wonder why.You have 2 people that seem emotionally invested. An allegiance grows as the time together expands.Then the mistress leaves. A deep loss is felt when the Mistress leaves.I wonder what emotional investment the mistress has. Do they feel the loss their clients do?
Good post in understanding what to expect short and long term.
Hello There Gigi.
Thank you so very much for your email and comment.
I fully understand and ended up taking on a few clients that were experiencing the loss of a Mistress just like you did. I’ts a process and a journey.
It’s important to let yourself grieve that loss, than be thankful for the time you had together, what you’ve learned and given each other and eventually, when you are ready, move forwards.
I can’t speak for what other Mistresses feel, and this may be something you don’t want to hear, but I pride myself on being a truth teller, so as far as you losing your Mistress versus your Mistress losing you as a client:
No. A FULLY proffessional Mistress will not go into a tailspin of angquish when one or more of her clients are gone for whatever reason, because to TRULY survive in this indusrty you have to be TOP of your game AT ALL TIMES, and your remaining clients cannot suffer with lower level of performance no matter what the reason is, clients leaving , personal life and the like.
My long term clients have been with me for a good number of years, and if one of them is gone, I simply try to conjur a happy image, that they are doing well without me, and maybe don’t need my sessions as they got what they were working towards, not all clients need a forever Mistress, sometimes we get to be together for as long as it is beneficial.
Just like Therapy =) I miss them, and I bless them from a distance. I do not dwell, for the sake of my (many) remaining clients that still need my full attention and professionalism.
I hope you will find a replacement Mistress when you are ready, but just understand that we are all different individuals with different styles and methadology. Be open to change and look at it as evolution of your journey.
I wish you well xo
Ms. Alina ????????
Hello this is really well written and made a lot of sense to me, your u covered and answered a lot of points that run in the submissive mind
Thank you for taking the time.
Hello There Alex!
Was great chatting with you yesterday, you are a lovely submissive, so devoted =)
I look forward to your servitude and collaborative play!
Welcome to the Alina Sky Femdom Experience ????????????
Interesting read Mistress Alina. Was also thinking that this could happen in phone sex as in an ignore call if possible. One where you abandon and leave the phone in another room.
Hello There Ty
This post isn’t about an Ignore call or orgasm abandonment, but I definitally do those as a kink call so feel free to call me and I will TOTALLY IGNORE you and do my thing, It’s trully a LOT of fun.
Alina
I read your article on captivity.
I wish you would lure me in
Is it isolated?
No one ever hear me?
Can you charm me
Hello Adam.
The only way for you to know is to make a call or book a session =).
Alina
I would love to call
I know I would love ❤️ to be charmed by you.
I would allow myself to be lured in.
I love seeing and reading about Tabetha and Britney!!!
Have they quit?
I am easily triggered by sensual women
Hello Adam
it seems you are commenting a lot on here and although I appreciate clients reading and commenting, bare in mind that I don’t engage with clients on comments, If you want my input you have to call.
Second, I will never give you info on other people that work here.
Now, it’s best that you keep those type of comments to a minimum. Tx.
Yes, this is an issue for me and I appreciate your taking the time to address this.
Hello There DragonHeart!
Always happy to be of assistance and if you wish, totally pick up the slack.
I’m an excellent long term mistress option, I don’t intend to retire anytime soon xo
Mistress Alina ~