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My Mistress Cornerstones
By Lifestyle Mistress and Kink Connoisseur
Alina Sky
Hello My Luvs xo
My Mistress Cornerstones is a subject matter I’ve been asked many times by submissives and fellow Domms.
My Mistress Cornerstones blog post is about my personal BDSM and lifestyle Mistress journey:.What I’ve learned, and what became a cornerstone knowledge gems I can share with you all. So I’m delighted to write this blog post as I know you will all benefits from it greatly.
Again for any personal sessions, questions and guidence I’m available to become your personal Mistress and Kink Companion anytime!
Now bear in mind that every Dom/sub dynamic is quite distinctive and unique.
So each Dominant may learn different lessons, and use different techniques which work best for them.
So for this special blog post, I’m giving my own personal outlook and the main cornerstones that guide me to continue and be the best Lifestyle Mistress I can possibly be.
So let’s dive in together so you may gain an insight to my own personal BDSM ever evolving exploration of BDSM and Kink.
My Mistress Cornerstones-
Clear Communication is key
I’ve spoken to this point before. The amount of communication it takes to really and fully be comfortable with a Mistress – even if you are open , still is quite vast. BOTH WAYS. Practices such as sharing your sexual fantasies and clearly saying what you want/don’t want may not come easily at first. This is why I’ve learned to teach my submissive how to comminicate effectively and I do all I can to make sure you know how much your openness is of vital importence to me and our BDSM journey together.
It’s Okay to take your time, don’t feel any pressure, and we have all the time in the world to explore and evolve in our sessions. I’m an excellent communicatior myself, so I will make this as easy as I can for you! .
My Mistress Cornerstones:
The Vital Importance Of A Mentor
Having a Mentor is always of vital importance in every aspect of life,.
To those of you who know me, I’ve spoken of my mentor with great reverence. Ms Kitty Skyler’s Domination style has informed so much of my own methodology. We became Managing partners in her Exclusive BDSM couples club in Vegas, where I’ve honed my craft for five years.
It is where I gained extensive knowledge of all kinks, fetishes and the highly intricate and nuenced world of BDSM and Dom/sub relationships.
Providing our high end clients with first rate sessions, ownership programms, training and teaching wives and partners how to practice their BDSM lifestyles, Cuckold lifestyles and Female or Male led relationships gave me the extensive, ever growing experience I bring to my phone sessions with you all, and there is a HUGE difference between a Dominatrix who only does phone sessions versuse someone like myself who practices and lives the BDSM lifestyle in my real world, daily.
I keep in touch with my former Mentor regularly, but to my great delight, I have found a group of New mentors her, at LDW, and I consult with these amazing ladfies often, collaborate with them whenever I can, and grow my BDSM commitment to exploration constantly.
I thrive on mastering new skills & constantly evolving my game
This Dominatrix Cornerstone is of great importance! I have lost count of how many long term submissives came to me seeking new and improved ways to intensify, evolve and refresh their BDSM experience.
Their own Mistress was really doing her best, and they truted, even loved her, were committed to being her sub but they felt that the spark was not really there, everything was stagnating and predictable, they did not feel challanged enough, they needed to get out of their BDSM rut.
Understand that when a new client comes to me with that issue, I usually ask them to communicate clearly with their first Mistress in a way that is specific to what their changing needs have presented, but a big part of me knows that a True BDSM specialitst knows how to keep every session new and exciting, push bounderies when needed and to keep evolving with and for their submissive, otherwise, it just like every other relationship, once you lose your sense of adventure, stick to the same script, and never evolve, your submissive will lose focus and drive.
You can read a post related to this issue right here :
The Unpredictable Mistress
I practice my knowledge as a Full Spectrum Dominatrix and explore many interesting fetishes and kinks, because it fules my own passion and brings a lot more to each sessions I do, and I can involve my submissives in my interests and fantasies, so they can expend their sexual repertoire right along with me, and it’s AMAZING.
My Mistress Cornerstones: Establishing trust is vital
So many submissives know this instinctively, but tust is the cornerstone to EVERYTHING in BDSM universe.
And we all know that trust isn’t just given, every bit of it must be earned.
And the core truth is that trust can only be earned when actions and behaviours totally correspond and match words over time.
So it will take time to earn and build and keep trust.
I always belived that time to be your ally in my BDSM journey and sessions, proffessinal or otherwise.
.I always take the necessary time to earn my submissives trust before jumping into sessions. They know they can totally trust me, Because I know that without the solid foundation of trust I can bring the intense gravitas into every session.
My BDSM lifestyle helps me channel my immense sexual energy
For a good number of my early sexual maturation, I sort of felt like a total freak. I have an immense amount of sexual energy, I was like the energizer bunny on acid, constantly at a peak sexual arousal, and it has not slowed down at all. I realized I needed a way to channel it, otherwise my life would have become total chaos!
By learning about BDSM, getting into that lifestyle and then becoming a Pro Domme, I finally learned how to control my hyper sexuality and focus all that energy. in a highly productive, positive and oh-so-satysfying way.
And not just for myself, mind you, but for my partner. as well! Just like me, my male lover, Jordan, has a collossal sexual appatite and energy. I got him into the BDSM lifestyle, and I even learned how to be a switch where he can successfully dominate me. And it is Glorious! (Also, this is why I REALLY understand the submissive point of view).
By having an actual structure and purpose, I was able to hyper focus on exactly what I needed, what my clients needed, what my partner needs.
Most importantly how can I expend all of this sexual energy and knowledge and translate it into phone sessions with you all.
My Mistress Cornerstones
The surprising value of the lifestyle
I’ve learned that BDSM is an Art Form. I equate my Domination Practice to playing piano, painting with oil paints, sculpting, or perfecting a dance routine. There is no doubt that if you are committed to this craft, you will ALWAYS be able to improve, evolve, perfect and advance your BDSM lifestyle and sessions.
So practice is key. In the wonderful universe of BDSM and Sexual exploration, there is always something new to learn, and some way to expand my Art, So,no matter how long I have been at this, I feel that I will always continue to evolve.
In ny vast experience, I find that many people use BDSM as a form of escape from their past trauma, current lives, or lack of knowledge on how to deal with things in their everyday existence.
Many submissives that I have come across in my practice experience, seem to use BDSM as a way to deal with their own issues, and also find a way to escape dealing with those issues.
BDSM, and every kink that lies within It, is a form of escapism that takes a lot of skill to work through as a Domme.
I do my best and try to help my submissives through whatever situation they are facing, and always provide them with transformative sessions every time. Whatever it takes.
Having said that, I’m not only just helping my submissives become a better, functioning person, I’m also bettering myself in the process.
To Me, It’s Highly critical to take my role very seriously, and follow through with each and everyone of my clients.
It’s vital that I first had to become e dominant over MYSELF before I could effectively be dominant over someone else. For me, being a Domme is never just about the Mistress Mindset, but also putting in the actual work intention and effort that it takes to live this lifestyle successfully.
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