Total Power Exchange
The Key To D/s Relationships
By Mistress Alina sky
Have you ever truly asked yourself about the Total Power Exhcange between Dominant and Submissive, in all its components. variables and complexities, and got totally overwhelmed?
I know many espects of BDSM can feel totally cringy and even if you are ready to relinquish all control to the right Mistress, it’s vital that you have a good understanding of what Total Power Exchange REALLY means for you, and the person who you submit to.
Total Power Exchange has short and long lasting effects. It has meaning and gravity. And above all, if you are ready for it, the RIGHT Mistress or Master (or both) are VITAL in order for you to truly achiever blissful surrender and sublime ownership of everything you are.
Let’s dive in to what Total Power Exchange Is, and How it can benefit YOUR submission journey
Total Power Exchange
Prologue
In my personal BDSM lifestyle, I’ve learned that it’s an adjustment and a learning process no matter how long you’ve lived a life of Kink.
I personally, do not sutie a Vanilla or Traditional lifestyle, and my partner/s know this, right off the bat.
I am willing to make some adjustments for the right partner, as you all know, my Male lover, is a High Caliber Alpha that I actually groomed and tought to understand my great joy in being a Lifestyle Dominatrix, and my Phone Domination Practice is very central to my BDSM loving existance.
In our relationship, He and I are Co-Dominant, but to be honest, he is the ONLY Alpha Male I’ve encountered that makes me feel relaxed and trusting enough in his Male Superiority, to let him take the lead and be the Man in the relatiohship.
Together, my partner and I own many couples, male and female submissives, trans gender, same sex couples who live the BDSM lifestyle with us, a close extremely discreet personal club of sorts (non monetary,and NO you can’t join, sorry) Of people who we know for some time and are chosen to partake in our inner sanctum BDSM super exclusive club.
We teach TPE in relationships because it IS a substantial adustment, especailly if you’re planning expending your BDSM interests into a 24/7 lifestyle
Total Power Exchange
Your First Steps
Whether You are A Dominant or a Submissive, in a stready relationship or have a regular Mistress/Master, you might find yourself quite interested in taking your kink to the next level.
You might have a standing agreement, session sechdule or even a contract, Wishing for a Full Time TPE lifestyle may be your ultimate BDSM goal. So it’s vital that you truly understand what this entails for you and your partner, and/or your Owner/Dominant. There is little doubt that taking your BDSM dynamics to the next intensity level of TPE, will surely ehance your entire spectrum and roles as a Dom or a sub. It’s also important to note that making this switch is not to be taken lightly and is quite a commitment, for BOTH parties.
Please read on to find out what Total Power Exchange truly means and how to avoid severl faily common mistakes, and a few insights and ways to make TPE as a lifestyle best work for you.
Total Power Exchange
Real Life Application
So What Does Total Power Exchange Means In Real Life?
Sometimes for ohters looking in, Total Power Exchange Relationships and arrangements might look unfair, strange or even bordering on abusive.
Unfortunately, many submissives themselves even confuse the two, which is why I work very hard to help those submissives who come to be my cliebts after a stint in those situations.
There IS a difference, and the right way to creat a Total Power Exchange relationships between a significant other, a couple, and of course as a lifestyle Mistress I engage in MANY TPE arrangments with my personal submissives and clients. (Male and Female alike).
The True Meaning of a TPE Relationship, simply put, is anagreed upon exchange of ALL authority, which is passed from the sumbissive to the Dominant. It is A MUTUALLY CONSENSUAL relationship where the Dominant has absolute control/power/authority/last word and can exercise said control wherever and whenever they see fit.
Now, having said that, if you, as a submissive are unsure about a situation where you cannot fully decide if your particular relationship is TPE abuse, you can let your instinct be your guide, or book a session with me. Never forget that essentially the very goal of TPE relationships should be for both partners, The Dominant and the submissivbe, to feel happy and fulfilled, feel taken care of, feel secure, loved and at peace.
And NO MATTER what you’ve heard or what any Dominant says, the submissive ALWAYS have the right to exit a relationship she or he feels may be abusive, exploitative or in any way unfair.
Total Power Exchange
Crafting Your TPE agreement
So Who is a TPE agreement good for, exactly, you ask? Well, we all know that many BDSM practiced in real life, including Total Power Exchange dynamics, usually look downright abusive to vanilla lifestyle folks, But I know for a FACT that all the TPE relationships I’ve encoutnered and created as a TPE Mistress, bring incredibule fulfillment, purpose and meaning to the lives of both Dominants and Submissives. One of the key points of great inportance, though, that no one should get into a TPE relationships or arrangement, unless you know the person for quite some time, know them very well, in fact, and you trust them with your very life, a 100%.
This goes for BOTH sides, The Dominant and the submissive.
One of the vital points in this is that your Dominant Master or Mistress will show you that they respect you as a submissive And YES, even in humiliation play. I actually wrote a comprehansive blog about Humiliation Play and you can read all about it here>
Humiliation Play, Is it for you?
So the clear path for a Healthy TPE relationship is respect and always upholding the “Safe, Sane, Consensual” code of conduct and princilpes of BDSM. Tthe submissive themselves must be metnally stable awarea and ACCOUNTABLE. This means you, as a submissive, NOT use the TPE dynemics to streamline espects of your life you don’t wish to deal with and an excusse to be made weak and not be held accountable for certain aspects of your life.
Total Power Exchange
Online BDSM & Your TPE Needs
Being a LIfestyle Mistress and the owner of my own private, couples only / invite only BDSM club and personal playground, I take all of my expertise forth to you, my online submissive and BDSM distance domination sessions.
I have been asked many times if an Online BDSM relationship can become a fulfilling and viable TPE arrangment. My answer
ABSOLUTELY. All the above principles must be applied, and it’s actually very preferable for many of my Online Submissives to have A Standing TPE arrangment with me during sessions and it spills very easily into their daily lives, if needs be.
My Online relationships most definitely and successfully can be Total Power Exchange, and the best part is that if you, as a submissive, don’t have a real life BDSM Play partner or a Mistress, and always wanted to try TPE play, the Online option is far superior, as it has clear bounderies and degrees of the amount of control, so it can be a Level Malleable Experience, cusom tailored to your specific needs. We can choose what level of control I shall have over your life from a distance. But most importantly it’s such a Pure form of TPE because it’s making the sub be VERY accountalbe and diligently hold themselves into the TPE MINDSET. As your TPE Mistress I have many creative ways to incorporate our online TPE agreement into your daily life.
TPE Distance Play
With Your Online Mistress
A few examples and Ideas where engaging and embarking on our TPE online relationship is me, as your Mistress, will be choosing your diet, your clothing and other espects of your daily life. Together, we can esteblish rules guides and protocols, deciding what is negotiable and what isn’t.
I usually suggest a Contract or an agreement of our TPE relationship, it’s very helpful. This type of contract can lay out all the rules, stipulations, protocols, aw well as expectations and requirements, like sessions regularity, for example.
I hope you’ve enjoyed this blog post, as as always I am interested in your comments and ideas !
Very interesting post Mistress Alina, I have always loved the idea of the Power Exchange. Just have always felt that Superiors belong in Power in life. It sounds like that both you and your partner are a true Dominant Power Couple.
Thank you for this post, Alina! I’m sure you have answered many questions for folks about TPE!!
But for the readers out there, are there other questions you have about TPE?
Thank you Mistress Erika!
I think everyone has questions about the level of TPE they wish to try out. Basically everyone milages varies, but the basics is always safe, sane and consentual or it’s a no go.